Conclusions - Reminders of how to follow the programme.

So there you have the basics of the Ripple Programme for Personal Growth and Happiness. It really is quite simple when you think about it but it can change your life in wonderful new ways.

It doesn't involve any new wave crazy ideas, it doesn't require you to light a candle or pray to the Angels. It is all about creating a new life for yourself and making the most of life and the opportunities that you create. It puts you in the driving seat, it puts you in control of the directions that life takes you in.

So in a nutshell, these are some important points to remember as you follow the programme in the days, months and years to come.

Keep a Ripple Diary.

Start to throw some stones and light a few candles.

Communication is key

Talk to strangers.Strangers are friends you haven't met yet.

Be aware of opportunities to make ripples.

Be prepared to try lots of new things to create new ripples.

Watch as your life is transformed because of your actions.

Random people are your golden ticket






The Ripple programme for Personal Growth,
Wealth and Happiness.

(C) Paul K Henry 2011.

A New You, the opening of doors.

The picture above shows a beautiful spiral staircase leading to an open door.

That's is how your life will be if you stick to this 'Throw a stone and make a ripple' programme. But with one difference.

In essence what you will be creating is a series of staircases all leading to different open doorways.

Let me get one thing straight, and this is the backbone of this programme.


We have all been throwing stones and making ripples ( unconsciously)

our entire lives and that is why we have found ourselves where we happen

to be now. That is why you have the job that you have and the home that

you are living in and the friends that you have made.



Think how much better your life will be and how many of your dreams

can be fulfilled once you start to


consciously


make things happen. You consciously make things happen by

making ripples.



I hope that this programme, how it works and what you have to do has become clear to you. And once you start to make ripples and be aware of these ripples you will find your life moving into many amazing new directions.


Here is just one more silly example but you probably get the idea now.


Kirsty meets a neighbour at the bus stop and has a brief conversation, nothing long winded, just talking about the weather and a local robbery. She meets the same woman a week later at ASDA and this lady mentions that there is a job going where she works. Kirsty applies for the job, gets it and enjoys it. Some of the girls invite her out to a meal and she accepts and on the same night she meets a young man called Dennis who happens to be young free and single. Kirsty hits it off at once and has a few dates, one of them at the cinema. While at the cinema she meets a girl friend of Dennis who becomes a good friend after her and Dennis break up. This new friend introduces her to her mum who runs a local art class.

Kirsty goes along to the art class ( a little shy, but she goes) and finds that she enjoys painting. In ten years time, Kirsty is showing her own watercolour exhibition at a posh gallery in London.


You can count as many ripples as you want in this example but at the end of the day it all started with Kirsty starting a conversation with a neighbour at the bus stop. That is how ripples work.


By becoming consciously aware of throwing stones or lighting candles who knows what amazing avenues your life can go down.


Who knows how many spiral staircases, how many open doorways.

Awareness and taking opportunities.

Being Consciously aware is so important when making Ripples


You need to be aware of two things;



1 Lighting Candles(throwing stones)


2 Taking opportunities to cause ripples or because of Ripples.


By keeping a daily diary you can keep a list of all the stones that you have thrown in that day and how many ripples you may have caused. Keeping a daily diary will also encourage you to keep to the programme and to light candles. Only by being consciously aware of throwing stones can you achieve the long term benefits.
This diary can also be used to keep daily updates on opportunities that have arisen as a result of your actions.

You also need to be aware of the opportunities that come your way to create ripples or as a result of throwing stones.

Here are a few examples of candle awareness.



Monday - Met a new friend at the gym and had a small conversation

Monday - Talked to a man on the bus.

Monday - Arranged to go for a meal with Jane and Kelly from work.

Tuesday - Signed up for a meditation class.

Tuesday - Found an old friend on facebook and sent her an email.

Wednesday - Applied for a new job at TESCO.


Again the possibilities that you can put in your diary are eternal!


Below are some examples of being aware of opportunities that can cause ripples or that come about because of ripples.


Tuesday - My new friend on Facebook has invited me to a school reunion.

Wednesday - The guy on the bus told me about a new book club in town.

Wednesday - I found out about a poetry competition in April.

Thursday - While having a few drinks after work I met a bloke that is

willing to teach me table tennis.

Saturday - While having my hair done, my hairdresser invited me to

her wedding.


These are just some examples or ways in which you can throw stones and take opportunities that come your way.

Becoming aware of candles

Keeping a diary of the candles and the subsequent ripples is one good way of watching those ripples manifest new opportunities in your life. It is also encouraging to see how all your efforts are reaping rewards.

So how do you light a candle ?

Like I wrote earlier, in any way or any which way you can. You could see from my example of meeting my wife to be in a nightclub queue how many different kinds of opportunities there are. There are as many ways of creating ripples as there are stones in the universe. Some big and some small, some red and some green and so on.

Sometimes you can cause a ripple by doing something that seems unimportant and unimpressive.

Just the simple act of writing an email can cause a ripple that could lead to you eventually shaking the popes hand or appearing on a chat show! You may laugh but who knows where your opportunities may lead.

There again you could do something enormous like appearing on a late night quiz show and it could lead to you washing dishes in a cafe. You see how random it all is and how unpredictable? The fact is we don't know what ripple could be caused by throwing one metaphorical stone. It doesn't matter how big or colourful that stone is.

Here are just some examples how you could light a candle ( throw a stone).


Talk to somebody who happens to be sat next to you on a bus or a train.

Arrange to go for a drink with a few work colleagues.

Join a local club.

Help an old lady to cross the road.

Make a point of making at least one new friend a week or a day (if you are feeling brave)

Walk into a pub and make a friend or strike up a conversation.

Go for a family day out and talk to a stranger.

Sit in your front garden or sit on a chair in front of your house and make

conversation.

Go to a local sports event and talk to the person next to you, even if you don't

like the sport !

Meet friends from Facebook and make new ones.


This list is an eternal list, it could go on forever. There are millions of ways in which you could light a little candle ( throw stones.)

The most important thing is to be aware of making these opportunities, you are the one person that can change your life, nobody is going to do it for you.


Throwing a stone and making a ripple is all about you taking charge of your own life and making things happen that you want to happen.

It's about being in control.

Communication, the art of throwing stones.

So how do you make a flame ?

How do you make a ripple ?


There is no correct answer. There are probably as many ways to start a ripple as there are randoms waiting in the toilet queue or walking down the same high street as you. But you need some form of communication.


For the purposes of this blog I will call these communication tools


Candles.



Because everytime you communicate to somebody you have the opportunity to cause a ripple. It may only be a small ripple but one day it may end up causing a tidal wave.

Think of how you met your wife or your partner. Think of how you ended up doing the job you do now. Think of how you ended up having the friendships that you have now.


Count the ripples, you may have difficulty in counting them because they are so numerous.

I personally met my wife in a queue of a nightclub in Wigan, Lancashire in the UK. I was having a night out with a friend who I met at college. I went to college because I didn't pass all my exams at high school. I didn't pass my exams because I was being bullied and had lost all interest in life. My friend was with me that night because I was there. If it hadn't been for this friend I wouldn't have been in that queue.


So let's look at the candles;


Bullied at school - Candle

Went to College - Candle

Met my new friend - Candle

WE both wanted a piss up - Candle


Four candles ( not fork handles !)

But I bet if I really thought about it there were more than a few candles involved in meeting my wife to be. Not to mention candles that belonged to my college friend.


So basically a candle can take many forms, but they all cause ripples.


I guess what I am trying to say is that the most important part of causing ripples and watching them change your life is to be aware of them. For this I would recommend keeping a Ripples Diary.

How do we start making ripples?

All you need is a little flame to start a fire.



A little tiny flame and you could end up with a bonfire. That metaphorical bonfire could be a marriage or a new job or a new home in Hawaii ! Never mind a best selling book or a teaching post in one of the countries finest universities.

Now I am not saying that you don't have to do anything, of course you do.You have to tend the fire to make sure it doesn't go out but first you have to light the fire in the first place.

So how do you do that?


I go back to a word I used earlier in this blog. A very important word.

Communication.


Communication is the key to lighting your fire, it is the metaphorical equivalent to using a match. So the next part of the blog is going to be concerned with methods of communication, the way in which you can actually throw a stone to make a ripple.

How to randoms become ripples?

They become Cogs in your life's wheels.


It all about things and people igniting a chain reaction.

So I guess it's like this,


You are invited to a New Year's Eve party, have an ok time but nothing special. You meet a guy called Eric and you kiss and end up having a fun (short lived romance), then a few months later you bump into a friend of his who you met whilst dating Eric, and this friend of Eric is named Richard.

Richard tells you about a nightschool course that sounds interesting. You make a few enquiries and end up doing an IT course for a total of 6 weeks.
Also taking this course is a lovely chap called Dave who you end up becoming romantically involved with.

One winter, 4 years later you are married to Dave's second cousin, have two kids and a doberman called Biggles.

This example sounds silly but it's exactly the way that ripples work. One thing leads to another, all the cogs work in combination and cause a chain reaction that culminates in you changing smelly nappies at 4 o'clock in the morning!

We could always change a few of the details in this story. Maybe the IT course enables you to take a degree in IT and you end up being a self employed, and very financially comfortable IT expert. You could end up dating and then living in a civil partnership with one of your clients. A client who only, originally, wanted help in creating a new website!

So that, in a nutshell is how we make Random people ripples.